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Caleb Alexander Miskell   2008-2011

Welcome to my blog. On May 3, 2011 my little 2 1/2-year-old son Caleb was over in the neighbor’s yard playing. We were over there that day because I was fixing a bicycle tire for one of the children.  I had to step away for a few minutes to go and air up the tire at the gas station.  So I asked my neighbor if she would keep an eye on my children while I left.  Once I got the okay, I came home real quick to inform my significant other of the situation.  I then left for the gas station.  Little did I know that once I came back my family’s life was going to change forever.

Meanwhile, little Caleb ran out of water in the milk jug he was playing with and he knew just where to get some.  There was plenty of water in the swimming pool in their yard.  The neighbor who was supposed to be watching him stepped into her house for a minute and left the children unattended.  Caleb saw this as a great opportunity to get some more water.  So he crawled through the doggy door, (that led to the back porch, which in turn led to the swimming pool deck.) Once he made it to the pool he leaned over to get some more water for his milk jug.  He must have leaned over to far because he wound up with more water than he knew what to do with.

To make this long story short, I returned home from the gas station to find my little boy dead.  We tried everything we could to save him, but it did not work out to well.  He passed away later on that night.

This blog is dedicated to him.  I feel as if he never left my side.  It is my aim with this blog to share with you my journey through grief,  so that if you to have lost a loved one, this will be the place that you come to, to find solace.  I want to help you in any way that I can, because I now know how painful it is to lose something so very close to the heart.  I love each and every one of you and thank you for coming here to read about my beautiful angel Caleb.

 

To my readers

If you are looking for where the current post’s are located just click this link Letters to Caleb, it is also located on the sidebar to the left under site navigation.

 

39 responses to “About

  1. everydayinspiration26

    July 29, 2011 at 8:19 am

    My condolence to you and your family sir..I may not know how it feels but l know that it was really painful to lose someone you love..May God give you and your family sir the strength to overcome all the pain and grief. For sure Caleb is an angel always watching over his family, loved ones..Like he never leave at all..God bless sir!

     
    • Jeffrey Miskell

      July 29, 2011 at 8:11 pm

      I could not agree with you more. My little angel is right here beside me right now. Thank you so very much for stopping by here. I hope to see you again. I pray that I touched your heart in a way like no other. If you know anyone who needs inspiration after losing a loved one will you please send them here. Thank you for stopping by and reading about my little Caleb.

       
  2. writerwannabe2011

    July 29, 2011 at 2:31 pm

    My heart goes out to you! My hope is that you find this a therapeutic way of dealing with your loss. Life truly is such a precious gift and we don’t realize it until it is lost. God’s blessings on your journey through healing . . .

     
    • Jeffrey Miskell

      July 29, 2011 at 8:08 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words. What I find therapeutic about doing this is when I can give God the glory for using me as a vessel to help another lost soul. Since I was a child, I have been trying to figure out God’s purpose for me. Through the death of my son I have found it! I can finally serve my Lord they way that gives him glory. Besides my son is setting here right beside me. When I finally take my walk with God, he will be there waiting for me. Please share my work with those who need help, those who need a spiritual uplift. Losing a loved one is never easy. If you have the right inspiration it can take away the edge. Maybe even lead another soul to God.

       
  3. Judith

    July 29, 2011 at 4:16 pm

    Oh how i grieve for you. The loss of a loved one is never easy to bear and unimaginable to lose a child. My husband died 13 years ago and I still miss him and want him here with me. I have changed my life coaching direction to assisting those dealing with the pain of loss. The best advice I can give is give yourself time to grieve and to heal. And above all, remember the joy that your little one gave you during his very short life.
    And when you can, spare a thought for your neighbor and her feelings of guilt and sorrow too.
    Judith

     
    • Jeffrey Miskell

      July 29, 2011 at 7:45 pm

      Thank you Judith. Talking to my neighbor is one of the most difficult things for me to do. Since action is being taken to recover from this accident. I am stuck thinking that they do not want anything to do with us. I mean after all they did not offer any condolences whatsoever. It lead me to believe that they are trying to avoid us.

       
      • lambskinny

        August 24, 2011 at 7:00 pm

        What can they say? What can they do? It’s hard for me to believe that the friend/neighbor does not care. Most than likely she is overwhelmed with guilt and dread and fear. I can imagine that your neighbor/friend is only capable right now of avoiding the whole situation and you especially. I pray for you, your family and your neighbor. The only words that come to my mind at this moment are — how horrible a loss. God bless.

         
  4. pattisj

    July 29, 2011 at 8:32 pm

    I can’t imagine the pain of your loss, but am thankful to read that you’re keeping your eyes on the One Who gives life, the only One Who knows the number of our days. God bless your hearts as they heal, and your ministry in reaching out to help others.

     
  5. Michael

    July 29, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    My condolence to you. I hope you will recover from the loss at soonest possible. And “Thank You” for liking my post.

     
  6. Kathy

    July 29, 2011 at 10:09 pm

    I can’t express in words how sorry I am that you lost your little boy. Having 2 kids, I just can’t imagine what you’re feeling right now. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer a little over two and a half years ago and still have not gotten over her death. I started a blog dedicated to my mom and to try and help others who have lost a loved one. Unlike you, I had almost a year to prepare for her death, but what the cancer did to her was shocking, and her loss was painful and unexpected. But losing a mother does not begin to compare to losing a child. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your dear, sweet Caleb will always to be with you. One of my favorite quotes is by Thomas Campbell: “To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” I know this can’t begin to take away your pain. I pray that the Lord gives you strength and comfort during this difficult time and hope you can eventually find peace. ~ Kathy (http://peace4me521.wordpress.com/)

     
  7. Coach Kathleen

    July 30, 2011 at 4:46 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. It has touched my heart in so many ways. I have two children. At their young age their father was murdered and we have walked a different journey of grief to you. I cannot say I know how you feel with the loss of your son Caleb. My hope and wish for you is you continue to share your story with us so we can all learn from your life changing moment and be with you on your journey of healing. God Bless you thank you for liking my post and letting me into your life.

     
    • Jeffrey Miskell

      July 30, 2011 at 9:01 pm

      You are welcome Kathleen. I am so very pleased that God has brought you here. You say that I have touched your heart, well mam I pray that it was in a way to help you deal with your loss. Please come back and visit me again, spread the word if you can to help me get more people here. Thank you so much for reading about my little angel.

       
  8. Christine Grote

    August 1, 2011 at 11:04 am

    I’m glad you decided to write through your pain and keep little Caleb’s memory alive. Your words will be strength and inspiration for others.

     
  9. rico

    August 3, 2011 at 4:01 pm

    Hi Jeffrey, I came across your blog by chance and wanted to say how much your words touched me. I cannot imagine what you are going through but hope that you continue to find relief and inspiration from the path that you are now treading. Hopefully, when the time is right, you will be able to have contact with your neighbour again as this separation must also be a source of pain for both of you. The guilt she must be feeling is perhaps the reason she doesn’t dare look you in the eye. Perhaps Caleb’s spirit can help you in this? Just a (naïve) thought that I wanted to share with you. God bless you.

     
  10. Pocket Perspectives

    August 14, 2011 at 5:50 pm

    II am so sorry about your tremendous loss….I can see from Caleb’s photo…the magical little boy you love so much….And what a lovely thing you are doing here: to offer a place for others who may be grieving to share their own losses. My love is with you.

     
  11. misswhiplash

    August 19, 2011 at 7:51 am

    If I can still write with the tears falling from my eyes..I would just say how very very sorry I am to hear of your loss. Such a tragedy.
    Caleb is now in God’s Hands and God will take great care of him. When finally you and your family make the journey to Heaven you will all meet again.
    My love to you all

    Patrecia

     
  12. Debbie

    August 25, 2011 at 3:54 am

    Oh dear ones – how my heart aches and breaks for you. I’ve written down your names so that I’ll remember to pray for you, not just tonight as I read, but every day.

     
  13. Rebecca Carney - One Woman's Perspective

    August 26, 2011 at 9:28 am

    I am so sorry your precious little boy is no longer with you. As a fellow bereaved parent, I pray for God’s love to continue to surround you. You are in my heart and prayers.

     
  14. BigSkyKen

    September 3, 2011 at 8:31 am

    Jeffrey, my heart is saddened by your story, but so encouraged by your faith and how you are dealing with life today. Stay in His grace, and you will be blessed. You and your family will be in my prayers.

     
  15. mtsweat

    September 10, 2011 at 7:12 am

    Jeffrey, just wanted to drop a line of encouragement. I hope and pray that you and yours are finding the peace and comfort only found in Jesus’ rest. I suspect I’ll never truly understand your great trial of suffering, yet I find great inspiration in your commitment to trust our Lord through these days. Keep the faith, brother… we are lifting you (and family) in prayer. God bless

     
  16. mtsweat

    September 20, 2011 at 9:18 pm

    Hey Jeffrey, just wanted to let you know I nominated you for the Most Versatile Blogger Award, visit my site to see the requirements for entry. Thanks brother for your great inspiration and encouragement.

     
  17. lambskinny

    September 22, 2011 at 5:51 pm

    Jeffrey, after some lengthy thought I’ve decided that it doesn’t look ‘bad’ for me to reciprocate — besides, your blog is a work of love. As such, I find it more than worthy of the Versatile Blogger Award. Congrats! You’re it, as M.T. said to me.

     
  18. rumpydog

    September 29, 2011 at 4:18 pm

    I am very sorry for your loss. I am praying for your family.

     
  19. Craig Benno

    October 10, 2011 at 8:10 am

    I cannot even begin to understand the deep, personal and isolating pain that you have experienced. I pray that our Lord of all comfort will cause you to know his peace deep within, that it will well up within you and calm the turmoil, that it will flow through you causing you to live and it will cover over you like a blanket.

     
  20. Aimee @ everydayepistle.com

    October 12, 2011 at 9:34 pm

    I found you because of the Versatile Blogger button. So sorry for your loss. You are a brave and courageous man to share your story. God bless you.

     
  21. my rays of light

    October 16, 2011 at 12:09 am

    How very brave of you to write about something so personal. I understand grief. I lost my sister in January…every day is a challenge for me. I write about her as often as I can…it’s my way of sharing her with people who didn’t have the pleasure of experiencing her.
    Your Caleb is a beautiful angel…how very blessed you were to have had the pleasure of loving him…and thank you for sharing him with us.

    Peace and blessings to you,
    Jenyfer

     
  22. lambskinny

    October 16, 2011 at 7:06 pm

    Like your blog’s new look — hope you are doing well, Jeffrey — you and yours, that is. God bless, Carley

     
  23. maureenlermer

    November 6, 2011 at 12:13 pm

    So touching.. My heart goes to you.. takes lots to go through this and then to put it down or us to share.. Bless you heart… May the soul of your dearest son rest in peace.. God is above he watches over You over US

     
  24. Amy

    December 12, 2011 at 11:53 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I have a little boy about to be this age. I worry about him constantly. He is such a little explorer. Much of the time, his exploring is so cute, but he is so quick and just keeps getting quicker…these are my biggest fears. Just since reading this intro note, I will think of you daily, I know. I don’t know how parents who have lost children go on, but you and your family are really an inspiration.

     
    • Jeffrey Miskell

      December 12, 2011 at 11:59 am

      Thank you for your kind words Amy. My family and I are being gently led by God. Even though this is a tragic situation. We are making the necessary moves to overcome this. You have been an inspiration to me. I am happy to have you here and I hope that you read some of the posts I have. I feel this site will really touch your soyl.

       
  25. lambskinny

    February 3, 2012 at 6:39 pm

    Hello Jeffrey,
    I’ve been thinking of you and your family lately, wondering how you are doing.
    Just wanted to let you know I continue to keep you in my prayers.
    Love in Christ, Carley

     
  26. Freedomborn

    February 25, 2012 at 5:34 am

    Hi Jeffrey, there is a very important need… our Blogging friends Wendy and Bob, our Brothers and Sisters in The Lord, are going through a very hard time, Wendy had a heart attack and is in a coma, Bob is asking us as Christians to pray for her, all the details are on my Blog.

    Christian Love Anne.

     
  27. my rays of light

    March 1, 2012 at 3:04 am

    For all that you do with your blog and being so candid…i nominated you for the Genuine Blogger Award….I hope you can accept!!!

    http://sistersofpower.wordpress.com

    Peace to you

     
  28. teeceecounsel

    March 1, 2012 at 3:43 am

    This is a very emotional post. I’m still trying to recover from the story but I sincerely admire your courage and the strength you have built. I believe you will do a good job with this blog; helping others pull through. I once wrote a poem titled ‘death’ on my blog. You could check it out if you have the time to scroll through my posts. All the best!

     
  29. Ula

    April 17, 2012 at 11:42 pm

    Thinking of you and your family today and praying for you.

     
  30. Bird

    June 7, 2012 at 4:26 am

    My heart is just broken for you and your family!

     
  31. bography

    June 28, 2012 at 2:39 pm

    Many children of Missionaries died. Here is an excerpt from John Piper’s life of Adoniram Judson, missionary in Burma:

    “This was the unshakable confidence of all three of his wives, Ann (or Nancy), Sarah, and Emily. For example, Ann, who married Judson on February 5, 1812 and left with him on the boat on February 19 at age 23, bore three children to Adoniram. All of them died. The first baby, nameless, was born dead just as they sailed from India to Burma. The second child, Roger Williams Judson, lived 17 months and died. The third, Maria Elizabeth Butterworth Judson, lived to be two, and outlived her mother by six months and then died.

    When her second child died, Ann Judson wrote, “Our hearts were bound up with this child; we felt he was our earthly all, our only source of innocent recreation in this heathen land. But God saw it was necessary to remind us of our error, and to strip us of our only little all. O, may it not be vain that he has done it. May we so improve it that he will stay his hand and say ‘It is enough.'” In other words, what sustained this man and his three wives was a rock-solid confidence that God is sovereign and God is good. And all things come from his hand for the good – the incredibly painful good – of his children.”

    http://www.desiringgod.org/resource-library/biographies/how-few-there-are-who-die-so-hard

     
  32. Cheryl

    December 6, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    So sorry to read about your beloved Caleb…what a beautiful child! I was sent here thoughtfully from the Ephesians 5:16 Blog. I too lost a son named Caleb. He died in August of 2008 when he was 17 months old. Thank you for sharing your story and your continued posts. I look forward to getting to know you and your journey.

     

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